As I wrote in a post accompanying the video for this episode’s preview – which got a few people commenting, it’s the morning after the night before and the relief around the Couples Therapy House, now that Doug & Courtney had departed was palpable. I went for a swim and yes, I wore Speedos! But let me just say that me and my Speedos have been friends for years and despite now being the wrong side of 40, I still rock ‘em occasionally, now whether I should we’ll let this week’s ratings be the judge!
As soon as the preview video for this week’s episode was released, Tweets, Facebook posts and comments on this website started discussing me & my Speedos with some even going so far and stating that I should have been thrown out of the house as I wasn’t honoring Dr Jenn Berman’s dress code. I’ll be the first person to admit that I certainly was making a statement by putting them on the moment that Doug & Courtney left, but what I was expressing was that small swimsuit attire is fine in and around the pool but certainly not proper or respectful clothing to wear to a therapy session. Also like a lot of things, the fixation with Courtney’s attire is like Courtney herself; only skin deep. For me it wasn’t so much what she was (or rather wasn’t) wearing but that her contributions in group therapy seemingly only matched the number of square inches of fabric that covered very little of her body.
In Dr Jenn’s blog on VH1′s website this week she alludes to a conversation with Shayne and Nik that happened off screen (or rather that didn’t make this episode), and I too had a conversation with Nik that didn’t make the cut. When he came out in his “Dourtney is Dead” tee, I said it wasn’t really appropriate and however much we may have been delighted that they were gone, bad taste is still bad taste.
During the first post Dourtney group session, I really wonder who Dr Jenn was angry with; us, herself or the show’s producers! In her blog she says “I really got how incredibly frustrated and difficult for everyone in the group to be living with Courtney primarily in two ways. The first was that hyper-sexualized dress and attitude and the second was their frustration at her not being at their level in the therapy room.” Yet I am really not sure she can get it. She can try and put herself in our place but it was us all (including Doug), individually who had been sitting in group bearing the deepest, darkest secrets of our psyches while Miss Lollipip giggled and oohed & aahed. Dr Jenn might think she knows how we felt but until it actually happens to you no one can know how it did.
You heard me use the “Lord of the Flies‘ analogy in group and based on just the footage that we all saw in last night’s episode, I don’t think I was being incredibly rude or disrespectful to Dr Jenn. I’ve never been afraid to state my opinion and while yes, sometimes my tone & delivery can be off, I was pissed that Dr Jenn was placing all the blame on their departure on us. I’m a great believer that in life you reap what you sow, and frankly anyone putting this show together would have known damn well that bringing Courtney into a house of adults would have created a shitstorm, VH1 got that but I do think overall, Courtney’s presence did undermine the therapeutic benefit for the rest of us.
In last week’s episode, Alex discussed her father’s death and the fact that as her Mom hesitated at the door, Alex as an 11 year old, took the handle and opened it. This week we got to see the intensely personal and emotional scene as Alexis (Alex’s Mom) joined Alex on Dr Jenn’s couch. For Alex’s thoughts on this please read her blog over on VH1′s website.
I’ve known both these women for over 13 years, and despite my own prior disregard for therapy, I am so glad that Alex & her Mom were able to sit down together, understand each other’s perspective and move on from there. Things left unsaid for years often just eat away in side of you and while this is not something that Alex continually dwelt upon, the fact that it’s now been cleared away is a great thing.
At the end of this episode we see Doug & Courtney return to the Couples Therapy house and in a preview for next week’s eighth episode we see Courtney sitting on Doug’s knee while I try to have a conversation with him. You then see me storm off and I’ll have much more to say about that next week when it airs.
Until then have a great week and for those suffering through Sandy & now this Nor’easter, I hope you are able to stay warm.