Back when Alex & I seriously discussed whether we’d sign up to appear on a Reality TV show one of the things we thought we’d get out of it were professionally produced home videos to provide us great memories of our young children’s lives. And so far these webisodes are just that! This second webisode, which captures a school morning when Alex was away traveling, perfectly encapsulates the interaction between the chums & me. The great things about catching just regular slice of life stuff with the boys is that they can just turn off from the knowledge that there’s a film crew of 6 or more people around us, as they are comfortable in their own environment just doing regular things…..basically REAL life!
Getting the Boys Out the Door 2nd Webisode
In one of the talking head shots I discuss losing my own father when I was just 5 years old. I have certainly been affected by my father’s early death, but I’ve also tried not lo let it define me as an adult either. On page 34 of our book “Little Kids Big City” I wrote
One of the challenges I expected to face as a father and perhaps I’m not there yet is that I have no immediate role model from my own life to emulate (or to not emulate as the case may be). Two months before my sixth birthday my father died and my mother, at the young age of 32, was suddenly the sole parent to four children whose ages were 13 months, almost six, nine and 11 years old. She didn’t remarry until 18 years later and so throughout my entire childhood and the remainder of the time I spent living in Australia my parenting was solely conducted by a woman. Sure I watched Fred McMurray in My Three Sons as a young boy, but I’m not sure that those second-hand childhood memories of a fictional TV program featuring fatherhood in America were going to help me much when it came time to be a dad myself.
I suppose the abiding promise I made to myself and Alex (and silently to the boys) was that I was determined to last on this planet long after their sixth birthdays; and 16th and 26th and perhaps even Johan’s 36th as well. Here’s hoping.
And I can’t deny that I get a thrill being the Dad that I never had, and long may it stay that way!
Last September, Francois transferred out of our local zoned public school to attend a selective citywide public school much further out into Brooklyn.
This means that in order for him to arrive at school by 8.30am he joins 25 or so other kids on a school bus that we, their parents, all chip in to pay for the bus, driver & also a matron. The school Francois attends is currently only kindergarten through 2nd grade but will go through to 8th grade, and Francois will be in the first graduating class. Whereas, last school year, both boys would leave at around 8.25 to go to school together, Alex or I now have to leave the house at 7.25 to take Francois to his bus and then an hour later walk Johan the three blocks to his school. Suffice to say for Francois, then six years old, that was a big adjustment to be up and out that early; and it was a big change for Alex & me too. What it does allow though is an hour each morning of one on one time for Johan with either Alex or me or us both. This gives our younger son a chance to be the big kid in the house without his older brother’s input.
If you haven’t seen the 1st webisode then look for it here and make sure you give some feedback to Bravo on what you think of these webisodes. The 3rd of 7 will roll out on May 19th when I think a snowman might make his debut!
In the meantime check out some other stories about us from the past week
Interview of me on Gothamist
By the way you do know I released a song “I Am Real” don’t you? And look for some live performance dates to be announced VERY SOON!