So it’s the morning of the March For Marriage Equality and Sonja had suggested that the four confirmed participants from “their group” AKA the housewives, get ready at her house. This had been quite an eventful morning as after Alex left to go to Sonja’s I got a call advising me that something had happened overnight and that there was a change in the march program. I didn’t find out the full facts until later.
Basically, for whatever reason it seemed that Sonja had decided the night before the march, yes the night before, that she wanted more than just to be a speaker and so had called up the march organizers demanding that she be given a platform greater than anyone else in “their group”.
If you don’t believe me, then please take a look at this march flyer, which is still live on Marriage Equality New York’s website. Here it lists the people participating as speakers, performers and committee members. Note, that both Alex & Sonja are listed as speakers as well as committee members, and that Jill is listed for being on the committee. Also there is no mention of there being a position of Grand Marshal for this March.
Frankly it was great that Marriage Equality had asked the housewives to participate but Sonja’s attempted hijack to make this her day was unseemly. We hear her explain to the housewives that it’s her day. Four times she tells them she’s Grand Marshal etc. Even if she’d felt the need/desire/ego to be ‘more important’ than anyone else in her group, the fact that she had ensured that Alex not speak seemed both petty and completely contradictory on a day highlighting equality.
Yes, LuAnn, Alex was taking “the thing” (that would be Marriage Equality) seriously as this wasn’t a march to “get down & dirty with gay friends” but a serious political rally to help bring awareness that a significant sector of the US population don’t have ‘equal protection’ under the 14th amendment. The Gay Pride parade (where they do have a Grand Marshal) is where you can get down & dirty if you so choose, but this was a civil rights march.
At the March when Alex asked Sonja about us hearing from the MENY organizers and that Sonja had insisted that she was the only one to speak and that no one else in “our group” could, Sonja’s initial response was “Yes, it’s about me” And frankly that says it all. For Sonja this was no longer about Marriage Equality but had morphed into Sonja’s Day. Frankly that was wrong and a shame. Then when she said “she had the documentation that they only invited her to speak” then I knew she was lying; either that or someone had sold her a fake bill of goods, and she’d never looked at the flyer that I linked to above.
Anyway after Alex & I realized that Sonja’s head had grown bigger than her heart and there was no appealing to her greater sense of good, we backed off, let her have her speech about Marrriage Equality (if that’s what it was – ‘Luurrrvvvve’??) and then marched off to Brooklyn.
I will gladly give Jill a shout-out here on having a change of heart, and to have headed back to Manhattan to join the march. And while she didn’t get to wear a wedding gown, she certainly blended in with many other women marching that day! :p
Between the two Marriage Equality scenes, we get a break from the tension, while we hear Howie recount his version of what had happened at the wedding the day before (Jennifer & Glenn’s seen in Episode 1). I’m not sure that this scene helped explained this ‘cigar incident’ any better but it was an opportunity to replay the face Carol pulled when she heard Ramona tell us the story yesterday.
Back at our house we were joined by two great gay couples we know & love. Rod & Lindel, who you might remember from the Season 2 Lost Footage episode with their adorable son Hugh, and Joe & Eddie who if you look closely are also seen in the later scene at Sonja’s house.
We see Jill & Alex talk about talking about their relationship and at it seems that Jill says she wants to make it work and Alex is certainly hesitant. I dare say Alex would have been even less hesitant if she had known how Jill was speaking about her 24 hours previously at the wedding.
I finally got to make an abbreviated version of the speech I had wanted to make earlier, and I love how Sonja’s talking head was edited in. No, Sonja I am not gay, I was playing with words; an Alex could be either Alexandra or Alexander, but fortunately for me I am straight and thus are afforded immigration rights.
Well that’s over…… or is it????????????????
Sonja arrives at Brian’s studio to see the portrait of her as a work in progress and let’s just say I too would have been a little aghast. The image on the canvas did look significantly older than Sonja is and looks. Brian’s got some work to do!
Luann joins Sonja for lunch and they discuss the wedding march which gives Sonja to call Alex & me as “Bridezilla and her man” and LuAnn to speak her ultimate in put downs “once you get to the top you have to be comfortable with whom you are and Alex isn’t…” I’m not sure what galls me the most with that one. Is LuAnn saying that she’s at the top and Alex has joined her or that Alex is at the top? LuAnn had already made a partial ‘CYA’ move earlier when she had said in a talking head that Sonja should have allowed others to speak, yet here she was seemingly going against. LuAnn, either you think Alex had a legitimate gripe or you don’t… which is it?
At the Gucci event not a lot happened, although it was an opportunity for both Alex & Sonja to separately bring Ramona up to speed on what had transpired. I am still not sure what Kelly was going on about when she said she was so happy that Ramona hadn’t invited her, but that Mr. Gucci had. If it was such a big deal to her then surely the least she could have done for Mr. Gucci was actually stay for dinner?
And if you don’t mind I am going to refrain from commenting on the triumvirate discussing trimming, be they eye hairs or hairs elsewhere.
And so to Sonja’s party showcasing Brian’s art. I had decided to stay home that night with the chums. This had been a mega week of filming with the wedding, the Marriage March, Peter Tunney, The Gucci event and now Sonja’s party, and while there had been one night off in there somewhere I wanted to be home with Francois & Johan.
Anyway Alex got there fairly early it looks like, and she & I had talked and although we had seen her at the Tunney & then Gucci events after the March, neither of those were places where the Marriage Equality fall out should have been discussed. And neither was this party. Alex walked in there with no intention of bringing it up and she didn’t. Sonja goes in straight off the bat, rehashing the March and all I can say is LOL when Sonja says “Simon? Is that your husband’s name?” Anyway Sonja has her say and as soon as Alex tries to state a few facts, she’s suddenly accused by Sonja of being rude. While the truth sometimes hurts, it rarely is rude. Once Sonja tried to deflect the facts and stated calling out ‘Rude, rude, rude’ the argument certainly descended into the sewer. Yes, Alex acted like a rabid rat, not backing down or forgiving for any of the mistruths Sonja was uttering. But Sonja’s accusation about Alex’s manners only came after Sonja brought up the March. It certainly would have been better if Alex had stated “what you are saying is not true. I didn’t come here tonight to rehash this, we can do that later.” And then walked out herself. However, in Reality TV like real life, we don’t get do overs but as long as it’s a lesson learned (and helped by the fact that she was in the right) it’s alright by me.
Later we got to see the portrait and if Sonja thought the work in progress she had seen looked 80 then it looks like he only shaved off 20 years. Sonja does look better than either.
So do we yet know who the Thug In A Cocktail Dress is?